Updated: Apr 14
I got my weekly email from Home Depot the other day and they were featuring appliances. I had to look closely at the picture because it looked like the refrigerator (you know, that place where you keep cold and frozen food) had a massive screen on it that would make a Tesla jealous. So, I clicked through and sure enough the Samsung refrigerator has “Family Hub 2.0” with voice technology. Think like your favorite voice driven speaker (Alexa or Google Home) with a huge screen on your refrigerator. Access all your favorite recipes and it will even read them to you. You can even add items to your shopping list and have them delivered (in certain markets). Instead of using a magnet to put your children’s art on the fridge you take a picture and post it to the screen (cool or creepy – you decide).
It is possible you have been waiting for just this device, and if so congratulations, it has arrived. For me, however, it seems more like an expensive distraction. Then again, I probably have 100 cookbooks and love to peruse them for great ideas – something easily done online these days (and I still do that from time to time as well). It does seem a bit like overkill to me still, I am happy to do my searching on my laptop or tablet (or cookbook) and use that in the kitchen – don’t need it on the fridge – but thanks anyway.
It is easy to get distracted by glitzy and new things and forget about the basics. Yet the basics are just that, the basics. If I want to be healthy and my fridge is full of junk food, high sugar treats, and old moldy stuff it won’t matter if my fridge can talk or not.
When it comes to basics it is hard to get more basic than my personal motivation. No matter what I want to do in the kitchen, at work, or in any aspect of life the most basic factor is my level of personal motivation. This is not the glitzy “watch a video” and feel pumped kind of fleeting external motivation, but the intrinsic (inside) motivation that takes me through hard times and helps me really enjoy the good times. This type of motivation is stronger, more durable, and more powerful than any external motivation could ever be. Besides we cannot watch YouTube videos all day long, can we?
You may read the words personal motivation and feel like I am making a judgment about you, but that is not the case. Our personal motivation is simply what it is, no judgment required. It is helpful to understand our motivation is built on core skills of self-esteem, self-compassion, and self-efficacy. These skills can be developed, no matter your background, education, race, or any other factor. This is a deeply personal journey, and no one can do it for you. As you work to develop these skills they act as a catalyst to energize your life to greater goal accomplishment, more balance, and hope.
There are 3 primary ways to develop these skills and increase your personal motivation:
Seek outside help: This can include working with a life coach, therapist, or other professional. If you have access this is the ideal method. These skilled individuals will help you develop some baseline measures, share concepts and tools to help, and provide the regular support you need to be successful. As a nation, however, we are over 100,000 therapists short of meeting our needs and access is getting worse, not better.
Self-help: There are a lot of books, online courses, and workbooks that provide a lot of tools for the already motivated. The challenge with these is twofold 1) finding the best out of a crowded field of options 2) when we are trying to work on our motivation, and we lack motivation, we generally don’t succeed which can lead to frustration – that in fact damages our motivation.
The HVASF system. A brand-new alternative, HVASF recognizes that many people don’t have access to the supports they need, and the inherent challenge of “self-helping” one’s way to success. As a third alternative they fill the critical niche between the 2 current options and doing nothing. To find out more please check out www.hvasf.com.
I hope you enjoy your toys and gadgets carefully wrapped under the tree this Christmas. I hope you take time to also enjoy the basics of friends, family, and sharing that fill the season with joy. Certainly, if we build the basics into our traditions everything else about the season will be brighter – even a talking refrigerator.